Thank goodness 2019 is finally over in just a couple of days! This year has been a struggle, and I know it’s not just me who can attest to this. It’s been a hot minute since I last wrote a heartfelt and personal post on here so please bear with me as I try to collect my thoughts throughout this post as I am writing this on a whiff.
2019 was the year that I learned a lot. It tested my patience, my faith in God, relationships, and friendship. It was the year that a lot of things were revealed to me. It was also the year that I lost those whom I love.
As 2020 comes in, I’m hoping for a promising year that will provide better opportunities! In order for me to truly make the incoming new year better than the last, it’s likely that I will need to let some shit go.
I’m sharing with you all the things I’ll be letting go before 2020. Hopefully, this will also help you move forward and welcome the new year with a fresh start!
Things To Let Go Of Before 2020
- Breakups, heartbreaks, etc. – Regardless if it’s a breakup with your friends or your significant other, leave the negative memories of your breakups in the past where they belong. Bring only the positive memories and the lessons you’ve learned.
- Mistakes – Forgive yourself and don’t let your mistakes in the past overshadow your future.
- Superficial People – Meaningful friendships and relationships require substance. Leave the shallow and glittered-up airheads in the past; they’re a waste of time.
- The people who mistreated and/or used you.
- The idea that you have to have everything figured out by now – It took me a while to realized this. My parents always gave me the ideal age and a checklist for when I need to achieve things; career, house, etc. Things are different now in our generation and we must prioritize things we want to prioritize rather than following a checklist.
- Other people’s criticism and judgment – This is my life and my goals. If you’re not here to support me, then please consider yourself ignored.
- Negative Self-Talk – I’ve always been hard on myself because I always set standards to prove things. I’ve also been good at talking badly to myself whether it’s about my physical appearance, my (lack of) achievements or even my mental health; it’s getting out of hand.
- Procrastinate less
- Feeling guilty for prioritizing myself – 2019 was the year that my mental health became worse than ever. It was the year that I completely forgot to take care of myself because I was too busy being a “mom” to other people.
- The need to be in control – Stress happens when you feel like you’re not in control. The hard truth is that you’re not in control of most things in your life. You can rarely predict how the next chapter of your life will play out, so avoid wasting your energy on trying to control everything. Accept that you cannot control the circumstances of your life, but you CAN control your reactions to the circumstances.
WHAT ARE YOU LETTING GO OF FOR NEXT YEAR? I’d love to hear what your goals are for next year and what you plan to let go of before 2020 rolls around. Leave a comment below with your thoughts! View my previous year-ender posts here.
Wow,maraming salamat sa pagshare ng great and bad experience,Mapa-Happy and Bad experience Family talaga ang lagi nasa tabi natin karamay.Dami kong nakuhang mga idea na dapat at hindi dapat.Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
Halos parehas lang din po sa mga naka list niyo po ma’am.. Need po talaga E let go lalo na yung mga tao na ginamit ka lang.. Pero hindi rin naman siguro maiwasan if by next year merun pa rin ganun.. Part na ata ng life natin yun.. Pero at least may natutunan tayo this year 2019… I look forward this 2020 yung positive vibes po talaga.. Na hindi man tayo ganun ka umasenso sa buhay at least gumagalaw siya.. Na may makikita ka na improvement. And also yung pagbabawas din ng Timbang, kahit slight.. Ahaha hindi ko po kasi namalayan na lumulubo na pala ako.. Huhu ang hirap besh… Sana makaya ko.. Aja!!!
Ako gusto ko talaga ilet go yung pagkamabilisin uminit ng ulo ko lalo na pag sa mga bata. 🙁
Yung pagiging magastos gusto ko ilet go sinusubukan ko maghigpit ng sinturon kaya lang di ko talaga kaya sana this coming year magawa ko na. *cross finger*
Goals ko magkaroon ng isang maliit na business like ukay mga ganyan kaso nahihirapan ako sa pwesto and may 1yr/o ako na baby kaya gusto ko dito sa lang sa bahay kaya lang tago ang bahay namin.
Goal ko din matuto pa magluto ng mga ulam and desserts marunong naman na ko pero di padin ganun kaexpert.
Sana lumetgo narin ang mga walang kwentang kapitbahay na walang ginawa kundi magchismis at magbunganga ng mga mura di nakakatuwa, naririnig ng mga anak kong bata pa. *peace*
Hi ate. For me gusto kong i let go na yung mga bad vibes. Dapat goodvibes na lagi. Yung mga taong mapanira dapat hinahayaan nalang at instead magfocus nalang sa sarili.. goal ko sa 2020 makapagstart na ng business kahit sa maliit muna magsimula. Sana sana magawa ko yung goal ko na yun!
Hello ms. April.. Goodluck to your blog always
Thanks for your experience ms. April. Ako gusto kong i let go ngayon 2020 ay yung mabilis po akong magalit or bugnutin. Hindi ko po talaga alam kung bakit simula ng nanganak ako. Kaya araw araw ako nag dadasal kay god na sana ay habaan niya pa ang pisi ng pasensya ko sa aking mga anak lalo na kung minsan ay talagang makulit sila. Pero at the end of the day pag napapagalitan ko sila naiiyak ako at humihingi ng sorry dahil love na love ko sila. Gusto ko na talaga maalis sa sarili ko yung mabilis akong magalit. Sana unti unti magawa ko yun. At gusto ko din i let go umyung mga lumang damit ko hahahha ewan koba kahit hindi na kasya sakin tinatago ko padin kaya nakatambak lang dito, salamat sa pagbabasa ms. April godbless po sa inyong blog. Im here Always support you
let go all the bad vibes aroud myself..
Happy lang para maganda ang pasok ng araw at buong taon look forward din ako nextyear na sana matapos na pagpapatayo namin ng bahay..
Happy new year ms april. I do have things of the 2019 to let go to be able to have a happy 2020,hoping i could do things much easier with God’s Grace .