In this kind of industry that I chose to be in (blogging, if I may say so), I am well aware that at some point of my “career”, haters will come in. I have seen a lot of fellow veteran bloggers who posted their experiences with their haters over at their personal Facebook accounts, and I used to think that I won’t be able to have one. And so that’s what i thought.
I am not here to reiterate series of events that have happened to my blogging life over the past few months. I don’t think you, my readers, would even care about the “too personal” issues I have had. But anyway, just to give an overview, being I am a person who has a Facebook account, a mind of my own, and a mind full of words, I sometimes post things about how I feel, or what I think about a certain issue, and stuff like that. And I mean, isn’t that what freedom of speech is all about?
I got a message from a former classmate (and when I saw “former”, I meant Nursery days) who is also a blog reader. I would not bother saying what it was about but it was definitely a “hater in the making, mask as a concerned reader” kind of moment for me (thanks Angela for quoting that!). After having a very poised and graceful conversation with the former classmate, I’ve come up with the idea to come up with tips and just my two-cents on how to deal with haters.
1. No matter what you do, good or bad, it will always look negative in their eyes! If it comes to the point that they send you hate mails and the like, it’s either you ignore it OR (and this is what I did) reply to the message with poise and grace.
2. NEVER NEVER NEVER let their negative energy sink in to yours. Haters are there to bring you down basically because they hate the fact that they can’t be like you.
3. Don’t let it affect you. Just continue doing what you love to do! In my case, blogging. I love to blog and it’s my passion to write and a hater will never stop me to do so.
4. Draw your inspiration from them. I know this is a bit hard to do, but I have learned that the more I push myself to perfect my craft, the more they get affected. So what if you succeed? So what if you are above them? If you worked hard to get to the position that you are in without hurting or stepping on other people, then the h*ll with haters?! Let them mourn over your success!
5. Lastly, just have fun! Laugh about it with your trusted friends and let your hater/s know you’re not affected. I’m pretty sure while you’re sleeping happily every night, your hater is acquiring a headache and getting eyebags, thinking of what his/her next move is.
I hope this helps you deal with your haters the next time you get to deal with one. I am beyond relieved that I managed to post this and I’m proud to say I did not bash, nag, nor respond using negative words to that certain hater I have.